During these difficult times, it may be hard for some Connecticut couples to determine whether they are going through a temporary rough patch or whether the problem is something deeper. Before rushing to a divorce, there are some questions that you should ask yourself and discuss with your partner about your relationship.
Working together and compromising
If you were to tell your spouse tomorrow that you wanted a divorce, would your spouse be shocked? Unless your spouse has paid zero attention to your previous attempts to have a serious talk, the answer should not be “yes.” You should be able to have a conversation with your spouse and be empowered to talk about what you need. It is also important to listen to your spouse and be willing to do things for the other person. If you feel like you cannot speak up with your spouse or that your needs are always being compromised, you may be in an unhealthy relationship.
Does your spouse meet your emotional needs?
If you find yourself going to someone else on a regular basis to have your emotional needs met, this is not a good sign, even if the other person is just a friend. Ask yourself whether your spouse is someone you can go to and want to go to for support. Your spouse should also be someone with whom you want to have a physical connection, which does not just refer to sex. If you find yourself not wanting to touch your spouse or even be around him or her, you need to ask yourself why.
What other stressors could be leading to discord?
The uncertainty and economic turmoil caused by the recent pandemic are just a couple of reasons why you may be having problems separate and apart from your spouse. Before speaking with a family law attorney, you should think about whether you would be happier without your spouse or whether things just happen to be difficult now due to outside circumstances. If you feel like your spouse is keeping you from growing as a person, this is quite different from a job loss or other life challenge making things tense between you and your spouse.