Deciding to end your marriage is not only a difficult choice, but the beginning of a lengthy process. Your natural instinct may be to find the quickest possible resolution so you can move on.
However, if you must file for divorce in Connecticut, you will have to be patient. There is a mandatory procedural pause or “waiting period” that lasts for 90 days. Understanding how this timeline works and how you can use it effectively is essential to navigating your legal journey.
What is the “wait period”?
This 90-day pause (also known as a “cooling-off” period) serves two primary purposes:
- Provide ample time for mediation, communication or reconciliation should you change your mind
- Ensure sufficient time to address key issues in dissolving your marriage, such as asset division and creating parenting plans
You cannot finalize a divorce immediately after you file. The cooling-off period must lapse before a judge can enter the final judgment. A good way to spend this time is to exchange necessary information, negotiate terms and address issues involving children and finances.
When does the clock start?
A common misconception about the 90-day period is that it begins the moment you serve your spouse with papers. Instead, look at the “return date.” This is a specific date assigned by the court clerk when you file your initial summons and complaint.
A court usually cannot grant your Decree of Dissolution until 90 days have passed from the Return Date. However, there is an exception if you and your spouse reach a full agreement on all issues. Connecticut allows you to waive the remaining wait time by petitioning the court.
What can I do while waiting?
Those 90 days may feel like a waste of time, but you can still make the most of it. You can use it as a period for active preparation rather than passive waiting. During this time, you can accomplish important tasks such as gathering financial documentation or negotiating on settlement terms.
Additionally, you can work with your legal representative to resolve outstanding issues. If you have children, you will need to complete the mandatory parenting education program during this time. You can also file motions for temporary orders regarding custody, support or use of the marital home. Seek legal counsel if you need assistance in addressing procedural requirements.