Once you decide to divorce, living together will likely become much harder. Yet, one of you moving out is not always a realistic possibility as it can imply considerable extra expense.
Even if one of you moving out is financially possible, neither of you might want to, especially if you have children. You might feel it would jeopardize your chances of getting the custody agreement you want or keeping the property. You might also feel that one of you moving out would be too much too soon for your children.
If you will keep living together until the divorce is done, consider the following tips to make things easier:
Define personal spaces
The larger your home the easier it will be to define separate spaces. The smaller your space, the harder it will probably be. Either way, it is important to do it and make some rules to avoid infringing on each other’s space. Whatever you do, make sure you sleep in separate rooms at the very least.
Consider how to limit time together
You can still spend time together, but it is usually wise to start spending more time apart. Maybe one of you can start work earlier, so they get the kitchen to themselves, leaving the other person to have breakfast later, for example.
You could start exploring other activities so you spend less time in the house together. That might be taking on some overtime shifts at work, joining the local running club that goes out a few times a week or just arranging to meet up with your friends a bit more.
Decide on how you will split expenses
Decide how you will handle things such as food shopping and household bills. You need to separate your finances as much as possible going forward, and it can help avoid arguments over spending.
Learning more about how divorce works can help you make decisions that allow you to finalize things and live apart sooner
