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Tips for telling your children you’re divorcing

On Behalf of | Jun 6, 2023 | Divorce & High Asset Divorce |

Discussing divorce with children is a challenging yet necessary task. The conversation’s emotional gravity can make it difficult, but parents can help their children navigate this tough situation with careful planning, compassion and honesty.

Before talking to your children about divorce, it’s essential to prepare. Discuss how to present the situation with your spouse, aiming for a unified message. Keep the conversation age-appropriate and focus on providing reassurance and love. 

Discussing the divorce

When discussing divorce with your children, aim to have both parents present. This demonstrates unity in decision-making and reassures children that even though the marital relationship is ending, you will both remain there for them as parents.

Be honest but keep the explanation simple. Children must understand that the divorce isn’t their fault but that it’s an adult decision. Make sure to reiterate this point to alleviate any guilt or responsibility they harbor.

Addressing changes and emotions

Discuss the changes they can expect, such as living arrangements or visitation schedules, and reassure them that both parents will still be involved in their lives. Maintaining routines where possible can provide a sense of stability and normalcy.

Encourage your children to express their feelings and validate their emotions. Ensure they know feeling upset, confused or angry is normal. Regular check-ins allow them to ask questions or share their concerns while processing the news. It’s crucial to offer continuous support during and after the divorce process. Encourage children to discuss concerns and reassure them that both parents will always love them unconditionally. 

Getting the parenting plan set early in the process can help to provide the children with stability. Ensure you have the terms set for the children’s best interests. 

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