Staying for the kids is possibly one of the most difficult subjects that parents considering divorce deal with. Research shows that 7.6 million parents stay longer in relationships than they would have liked because of their children. Of course, there are significant benefits to raising kids in a home with both parents.
But what if the marriage is not working? This guide discusses why staying for the kids may not be the best option.
Creating a hostile home for kids
If you and your spouse have irreconcilable issues that cause negative interactions, you may create a high-conflict home for your kids. When kids always see their parents fight, they can have self-esteem issues, lower academic performance and poor management of emotions.
Divorce may be helpful for such children. The separation will be hard in the beginning. But after both parents heal, become happier, and develop a practical parental plan, it will be easier to have healthier relationships with the kids.
When some parents have major disagreements, they focus on those issues to the detriment of their kids. For instance, if a parent spends more time at the office or out to avoid fights in the house, they will not have time for their children. Besides, emotional stress may cause a parent to forget and miss important events for their child.
However, this may not be the case in parents who divorced and co-parent successfully.
Living an unhappy life
Besides being a parent, you are an individual who deserves a happy life. Staying in a marriage that makes you unhappy and stressed may not be what you dreamed of for your future.
Changes in the family structure are odd and challenging. However, with the right measures, it’s possible to raise your kids healthily after a divorce.