The decision to divorce affects everyone in the family, including the kids. It’s imperative that anyone who’s making the decision to end a marriage takes the time to address the concerns their children have. This can help the children to thrive despite the changes they’re facing.
While every child is different, there are some worries that are pretty common for those who are facing their parents divorcing. Understanding these might make it easier for you to help your children.
Loss of family
Some children are concerned that they will lose contact with extended family members, like aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents. This shouldn’t be a worry for them, but you should let them know that you encourage them to maintain those relationships. This includes trying to help them to see that you want them to have a good relationship with their other parent. They might be worried that you won’t like it if they have fun or speak positively of the time they had with your ex.
Kids might be worried that their parents arguing will impact important events. Presenting a unified parenting front from the announcement of the divorce might help to quell this fear. You may also have to specifically address the fact that you and your ex are committed to ensuring that the children won’t have special events ruined by disagreements.
You must place an emphasis on ensuring your kids’ best interests are the only focus as you work through child custody matters. The parenting plan you decide on should reflect those. It’s best to get this done as quickly as you can during the divorce so you can better help your children adjust to the changes.